Success is a psychological state of an individual self-recognition, self-satisfaction, and self-realization.
Money, fame, power, at best, is the outward embodiment of success, not success itself.
The pursuit of success must be premised on accurate self-positioning. The key to self-positioning lies in recognizing own values and set clear goals for individuals based on values. On this basis, through the conscious and systematic psychological training, everyone can develop the psychological state that a successful person should have, so that life and work are more valuable.
Among them, the gradual and operable training methods mainly include four key points: strengthening self-esteem, positive thinking, self-restraint, and resource management.
How to define success
In psychology point of view, success is a state of mind that is achieved through hard work, personal self-recognition, self-satisfaction, and self-realization. Everyone has a success of their own. Success is not judged by formulas or indices, nor by family and friends or authoritative organizations, but by themselves. If your life is in line with your cognition and expectation, then it is considered as a success.
If your life is in line with your own values, doing what you care about, what you think is important, what you think is right, then you are successful.
In the story of a fisherman and businessman, the fisherman only catches a few fish a day, enough to survive, and pursue a soothing leisurely life. But businessman wants more fish, buy more boats by selling those fishes to catch more fishes, and then set up fleets, become a listed company and achieve financial freedom.
The view of two people is not the same, as long as live out the life you want just like your expectations, and achieved self-satisfaction and self-realization, then you are successful.
How to self-positioning and set goals
The pursuit of success, with accurate self-positioning as the premise, the key lies in the recognition of your own values. Values are the psychological basis for determining human behavior, determining what you value, what you care about, what you pursue, and the direction in which you seek success.
After recognizing the values, the first step in pursuing success is to set your goals for success and pursue the meaning of life according to your values.
Your goal must conform to the values, realistic, and match with your conditions. And reasonable goals include five characteristics, namely specific, measurable, achievable, realistic, and time-related.
The meaning of the goal has two aspects. First, allows personal values to indicate the direction of success, become more specific, easy to develop life plans, work, and life.
Second, the pursuit and desire for goals can bring great spiritual strength.
Goals can be divided into long-term goals and short-term goals. When setting our life goal, we should consciously subdivide a long-term goal into a series of interlocking short-term goals. Only in this way, in accordance with the right pace, continuous return and motivation, always moving forward.
The power of the goal is so powerful that it can even support your life.
How to cultivate the psychological state conducive to success and achieve the goal of success based on own characteristics
People can consciously carry out thinking training and psychological construction, step by step to develop the mentality of successful people, stimulate the inner potential so that work and life are more meaningful, more efficient, more easily to success.
The core content of the training is to strengthen self-esteem, positive thinking, self-restraint, and resource management.
Strengthening self-esteem can provide strength for other aspects of training. The formation of self-esteem, related to the experience of early childhood, obtain sufficient unconditional positive care are easy to develop self-esteem. Self-esteem can also be trained and nurtured. Training can be divided into two levels. When facing self-regulation, if you achieved something, give approval to yourself, and determine self-expectations.
Increase confidence by setting and completing short-term goals, reduce evasion, reduce comparisons, and accept your shortcoming.
Positive thinking requires us to focus our attention on the good, and more on the sunny, positive things.
The training of positive thinking, starting from positive language habits, should consciously choose more vocabulary and expression habits that are more active, positive, and sunny. Avoid passive, negative, and dark words can help the way of thinking to transform into a positive direction.
Self-restraint is to restrain and discipline oneself, not to let bad habits distract and interfere with oneself. The great enemy of self-restraint is the bad habit in life. To deal with bad habits can be divided into three steps. The first step, self-reflection, recognize the existence of bad habits, and make some commitment to change, not because of other people’s criticism or external pressure, but based solely on your own will. The second step is to understand bad habits, understand the environment in which bad habits occur, and be aware of the sensory stimuli or psychological gratification that bad habits bring to you. The third step, from the point of view of seeking alternatives, gradually form an alternative to bad habits.
Face up to your flaws and shortcomings and learn to accept them because they are also part of you.
Resource management is the efficient management of all kinds of resources needed for success. The core content includes time management, money management, and interpersonal management.
Time management and money management can be done in a three-step model. The first step, analyze the time taken by each transaction or how much money; The second step, prioritize these transactions; The third step, according to the priority of the transaction, the time of occupation, and money develop plans to optimize the management.
The core of efficient management of interpersonal relationships lies in communication, not groveling, deliberate pandering, but to maintain a confident, open mind. Use your empathy, connect your values with the values of others, and seek consensus and common interests.
There are two points of communication to be aware of. First, starts everything with a confident smile, goodwill, and optimism. Second, tone, eyes, expressions, gestures, body posture, and so on, these language content outside the factors, many times can convey information more than the language content, but also more able to show the image.
Therefore, special attention should be paid to non-verbal expression.
The reality of mentality shows that when people refer to the historical price of the stock, it is always easy to be overly optimistic about the stock with good performance in history, and too pessimistic about the variety of bad performance.
This is the true state of human nature.
Finding your true side and perfecting it is a success.