If you want to change yourself, should you change your attitude first or change your behavior first?

Between attitude and behavior, is the square of changing oneself.

Changing oneself means that you have a good change, changes that can be recognized, is the improvement of behavior performance, and improvement on these behaviors, also implies the improvement of the attitude of thought.

What a person thinks, and what he does, is the relationship between each other with his personal values and his behavior.

If a person changes himself, their appearance will be different, there will be an improvement from the mental outlook, behavior changes, from implicit attitude, the internal state of mind will change, as well as the transformation and renewal of the attitude of thought. At the same time, changing behavior and attitude is a stable state.

When we desire to change ourselves, the established perception leads us to believe that we should have an attitude shift in order to influence behavior and thus change behavior.

This point of view emphasizes that attitude determines a person’s behavior, so we should change from attitude first.

So, to change oneself, should you change your attitude first, or change your behavior first?

The popular public opinion emphasizes the effect of attitudes on behavior, which is the default idea of most of us, and social psychologists believe that attitudes and behaviors are mutually supportive.

Social psychology points out that attitudes – often thought to be emotional to something or person – often fail to predict behavior well.

And, experimental studies have shown that changing people’s attitudes clearly doesn’t change people’s behavior to a large extent.

It is difficult to change behavior through attitude. Social psychology points out that when we think about our attitudes, attitudes affect our behavior.

And people who are self-conscious will be influenced by their own attitude, so the general self-conscious people will be difficult to be influenced by attitude and change behavior.

People don’t change their behavior because of their attitude, they need a steady attitude to change their behavior.

The establishment of a stable attitude needs to be obtained through experience, when the attitude is established by a certain experience, rather than hearsay, attitude can be accessible, in order to be more durable, more induced behavior.

Only those who derive attitude from direct experience will take action.

Only when we do things for ourselves can we gain the experience of changing ourselves, and we can gain the attitude to change ourselves.

Therefore, attitude is not simply accessible, it requires the practice of our own actions.

And those attitudes that can be easily accessed, often do not have a profound impact on themselves, it is difficult to become their own stable attitude.


Sometimes people listen to the views of the older generations, suddenly feel enlightened, and then find themselves with new ideas, new thinking and attitudes, or just listen to other people’s opinions, they think they have a new attitude. Such feelings and experiences are true, but it is just on the surface, shallow level of a simple cognitive sense of acquisition. This is not their own attitude.

A person’s attitude, will not directly forcefully change because what others say is reasonable, and become their own stable attitude.

Before you start, before the change in behavior, people are always susceptible to other people’s voices, so you can’t help but think that you’ve understood what others are saying, and that sounds reasonable.

A person’s attitude should grow from their own body, only experience our own personal action, we will only learn the real attitude and thought.

Otherwise, when you absorb the teacher’s teachings, again and again, your attitude changed again and again, why have you not grown and progressed, change yourself? 

It’s like listening to a lot of advice, but still bad at life.

This is because we don’t act consistently, and we can’t speak for ourselves.

The action is simple, but it is also difficult.

Action is so simple that everyone can understand it, but not many people can understand the meaning.

Only when the action has been sustained, you will understand the meaning and charm from the heart, only after continuous action, after the continuous trial and error, and constantly run with yourself, you can grow your own things, you will have more independent thinking of your own. That’s what can change yourself.

And before taking action, the creeds you once questioned, the guidance you hesitated to give, will generate your own insights and deep resonance after you have taken sustained action, and even more unexpected thoughts of your own, and your attitude has unknowingly changed.

Action is a substance, a grounding thing, and a person’s behavior is his own.

Only when you really start doing something, changing your behavior with actions, and forming your own habits, will you understand how your behavior shapes yourself.

It’s time, with will and patience, you’ve done things you haven’t sustained in the past, and in the process, you’ve had new changes and feelings about doing things, and you’re slowly opening up the perspective of what you’re doing, and growing from it.

You will no longer doubt yourself, your mind becomes more mature, have your own vision, dare to advocate more of what you want to do, dare to be responsible for yourself, and no longer blindly listen to the message of mass dissemination.

Changing yourself is ultimately a behavioral implementation, accompanied by a change in attitude.

To change yourself, you do not need to change your attitude first, as long as your behavior has new actions, and put in place, your behavior will change your attitude. And your behavior is your own characterization, making it a habit to express itself. Use your own behavior to achieve things, to achieve things to become yourself.

The phenomenon of attitude – compliance – is neither unreasonable nor magical, it prompts us to act, and may also prompt us to think.

Attitudes motivate us to act and think, but to change ourselves, we have to take action.

Whether you agree with a certain truth, or suspicious of the words of the older generation, if you are willing to believe, you can act for yourself immediately.

Attitudes must correspond to behavior in order to point to changing yourself.