Do you always think about the worst?

People often have fears about uncertain events.

For example, your manager suddenly walks to your workstation and asks you to go to his office, your heartbeat will soon accelerate, thinking did you done anything wrong.

The boss said tomorrow everyone should be on time to the company, there are major events to be announced, you immediately think about whether the boss is going to lay off people.

Your wife sent a message to you, asking you to come home quickly after work, she has something to say to you. In your heart, is it because your wife found out you have been flirting with your colleague.

All these are about what’s going to happen, but you don’t know which aspect you’re going to have, and you instinctively feel a wave of fear, and usually, you’re going to think in the worst direction.

In fact, the manager asks you to go to his office maybe he wants to understand your recent job performance, to see whether you are suitable for a promotion.

The boss asks for a meeting the next day to announce that the company’s last quarter performance was very good and decided to give everyone a raise.

Is it that none of the things you worry about have happened.

Of course, this is not necessarily always the case, I believe most people know about Murphy’s Law, is that anything that you think can go wrong will go wrong, or the end result is as bad as you think, but so what, those results it is not what you can control.

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Why do people always think badly about uncertainty?

This has to do with people’s habitual thinking, usually, people will think that if it is good news, there is no need to make it so mysterious, leak a little bit of information in advance, generally only bad news will need to be mysterious because to avoid more trouble and strict confidentiality.

When the ancients were hunting, they usually made elaborate plans for the round-up, and the people involved had a division of labor, and if everything developed according to the established situation, the result would usually be good, and the prey would be hunted successfully according to the plan.

If there are accidents that happened, such as misjudgment of the strength of the animals, or if someone doesn’t follow the plan, it usually results in bad results.

This has also led to people to develop the habit of step-by-step, do not want to have uncertainty, because accidents often bring bad results.

Knowing why people are afraid of uncertainty, what can we do to reduce the impact of this situation?

Modern society is different from ancient times, we are not always in danger, so we do not have to mobilize survival instincts at any time to deal with unpredictable situations.

For uncertain events, we can reduce our own subjective guesses, because what will happen is beyond your control, what you can affect is your feeling when you face this situation, prepare for the worst, there is no need to scare ourselves in this way.

Then there is the idea that we can adopt Nassim Nicholas Taleb’s book “Antifragile” to enhance our own anti-vulnerability capabilities, that is, the ability we have to cope with uncertain events, as mentioned just now, if it is really a layoff, and you have the ability to find a new job or work at any time, there is nothing to worry about.

For uncertainty, our most important attitude is to face it, if it is the worst result, resolve it through our calm thinking because we are always ready.